Saturday, August 2, 2008

Vacation Poor

Research clearly demonstrates that an annual vacation significantly cuts risks of most diseases by 20-30 percent. The Multiple Risk Factor Intervention Trial of 12,000 American men revealed that during a 5-year study period those who took the most vacations had 20 percent less risk of dying from any cause than those who took the fewest vacations. A 1999 Dutch study found that overcommittment to work without an annual vacation increased physical and emotional illnesses.

A study by the World Tourism Organization study showed that vacation time for Americans lags well behind other industrialized countries. The WTO listed the average annual vacation days by country as follows: Italy (42), France (37), Germany (35), Brazil (34), Britain (28), Canada (26), South Korea (25), Japan (25), the United States (13).                         

More than one third of Americans fail to use their full vacation times. Of those who do take full time away from their regular jobs much of their vacation time is spent on activities other than rest and relaxation:

Ø    19 percent spend their vacation time on family or personal responsibilities, including illness, funerals, caring for sick children or parents

Ø    Another 13 percent spend vacation time going to school, working at another job, or participating in reserve military service.

Ø    One in five vacationers are contacted about work matters during non-work times

Ø    23 percent of employed adults in the United States report checking work email or voicemail while vacationing    

Enjoy Your Work


Three secrets of a long and happy life

1.Do you enjoy your work?

2.Do you have something to look forward to?

3.Does someone love you that you love in return?


The difference between happiness and joy--happiness depends on happenings, joy depends on spiritual contentment


The greatest risk is not taking one


Friday, August 1, 2008

VACATION VALUES

            Research clearly demonstrates that an annual vacation significantly cuts risks of most diseases by 20-30 percent. The Multiple Risk Factor Intervention Trial of 12,000 American men revealed that during a 5-year study period those who took the most vacations had 20 percent less risk of dying from any cause than those who took the fewest vacations. A 1999 Dutch study found that overcommittment to work without an annual vacation increased physical and emotional illnesses.

            A study by the World Tourism Organization study showed that vacation time for Americans lags well behind other industrialized countries. The WTO listed the average annual vacation days by country as follows: Italy (42), France (37), Germany (35), Brazil (34), Britain (28), Canada (26), South Korea (25), Japan (25), the United States (13).                         More than one third of Americans fail to use their full vacation times. Of those who do take full time away from their regular jobs much of their vacation time is spent on activities other than rest and relaxation:

Ø    19 percent spend their vacation time on family or personal responsibilities, including illness, funerals, caring for sick children or parents

Ø    Another 13 percent spend vacation time going to school, working at another job, or participating in reserve military service.

Ø    One in five vacationers are contacted about work matters during non-work times

Ø    23 percent of employed adults in the United States report checking work email or voicemail while vacationing           

Causes of THE VACATION VOID

            A vacation-less life may be caused, in part, by cultural factors. Emotional conflicts that contribute to the overwork syndrome may be associated with the following:

Ø    Compensation for feelings of inferiority or insecurity

Ø    Identification with a demanding parental expectations

Ø    Recompense for physical limitations such as poor health or aging

Ø    A solution for prob­lems of aggression and guilt

Ø    A need for approval

Ø    Excessive competitive drive

Ø    An attempt to enhance self-esteem

Ø    The desire to improve social status

Ø    The need for excessive financial gain

Ø    A fascination with the accumulation of material objects

Ø    The inability to refuse the requests of others

Ø    Self-imposed demands for perfection           

PROBLEMS ENGENDERED BY LACK OF VACATION TIME

            A self-induced increased workload causes deterioration in marriage and family life, undermining the main source of non-work related support. Likewise, avoiding vacation time leads to a decline in efficiency and initiative resulting in an increasing spiral of mistakes and complaints from associates and customers. Paradoxically, those people who overwork rather than earning praise for their dedication eventually receive criticism from family, colleagues, and employers.

             Usually those who fail to take regular vacations become unproductive, cynical, negative, rigid, and inflexible. Accompanying poor work performance is the inability to have fun. The harder one works the more difficult it is to relax.

FINDING BALANCE BETWEEN WORK AND VACATION TIME

There are individual differences for the need for vacation time. Some people become bored when they are away from the office too long. Others begin to lose a sense of worth when on extended vacations. Balance is the key to the successful use of vacations. Here are some ideas both for benefiting from vacation time:

Ø    Schedule vacations and keep them.

Ø    Quit work early or take time off when fatigue builds. Sustained effort toward a goal is best balanced with laughter and play.

Ø    Plan an occasional long weekend away from work.

Ø    Returning to work tired after a vacation or time off indi­cates the wrong approach to leisure time.

Ø    Have you ever noticed how people on the tennis court or the golf course shout and act as if they are fighting alli­gators in a swamp? If they aren't having a terrible time, they're certainly making life miserable for everybody around them. Those who enjoy life, play for the fun of play­ing. Paradoxically, when they're playing for the fun, they play better. Play—-free and spontaneous activity—-emphasizes enjoyment not achievement.

o     Emotion, not effort, enhances play. Attitude, not activity, determines whether we work or play.

o     Leisure activity should be fun, not a drain on the emotions.

o     Sports and games should bring more laughs than frowns.

Ø    Every day ask yourself, "Am I having fun yet?"

o      Surround yourself with people who fill you with joy and laughter.

o      Be an inverse paranoid-think the world is out to do you good. Decide to be hopeful and fun loving.

o      Don't take yourself so seriously. Those people who have a cosmic view of life culti­vate a lifestyle that allows them to tolerate outrageous fortune. They laugh at themselves and their situations. They develop a "hang-loose" philosophy of life.

o      Read or listen to humor regularly.

o      Keep a humor scrapbook.

o      Marry someone who thinks everything you say is funny.

o      When a situation becomes stressful, pretend it's all a Candid Camera episode.

o      Practice LOL—it's internal jogging.

o      Remember: He who laughs, lasts. A sense of humor - that goes beyond joke telling ­embraces laughing at oneself and life's absurdities. When we learn to "think funny" our life becomes enriched with friends and fellowship.

o      Play golf. Golf is just like life: Difficult and unfair. Par is 18 laughs a round.

Ø    Cultivate creativity. Creative people see connections between things when others see separation. Creativity requires knowledge, for many cre­ative ideas come from old concepts rearranged in a new way.

o      Break the rules by questioning the reasoning behind them. Alexander untied the Gordian knot by chopping it in half while others had failed for centuries because they followed the rule and tried to untie it.

o      Ask "what if' questions. Einstein conceived the theory of relativity by asking, "What if I could ride a light beam?"

A DAY-BY-DAY VACATION: PREVENTING OVERWORK

            Vacation, a time of rest and freedom from work, can be experienced each and everyday. Duke University psychiatrist, John Rhoads, MD, studied successful, effective, and healthy executives who worked at least sixty hours weekly and compared these individuals with executives who developed burnout from working over sixty hours weekly. The following table summarizes those findings.           

THOSE WHO EXPERENCE WORK SUCCESS

THOSE WHO EXPERIENCE work burnout

Postpone thinking about problems

Ruminate about work problems

Take time off when productivity begins to diminish

Take their computer and cell phone on their vacations to keep-up with work activities

Use exercise, hobbies, and sports

to deal with work stress

Use drugs or alcohol to deal with work stress

Enjoy scheduled vacations

Tend to postpone vacations

Cultivate a stable family life

Spend very little time with their family

Maintain friendships

Have a difficult time cultivating friendships

Exercise regularly

Watch television regularly

Have varied interest outside of work

Feel uncomfortable away from work

Can laugh at themselves

Take life and themselves too seriously

 

DO YOU KNOW HOW TO HAVE FUN?

 

LITTLE OF THE TIME

1-pt/each √

SOME OF THE TIME

2-pt/each √

A LOT OF THE TIME

3-pt/each √

MOST OF THE TIME

4-pt/each √

I enjoy hobbies without feeling guilty about not working.

 

 

 

 

I am optimistic and cheerful.

 

 

 

 

I surround my self with happy, positive, and fun-loving people.

 

 

 

 

I correct my mistakes and blunders, but don’t continue to worry about them

 

 

 

 

I take a long weekend away from work when I begin to feel burned out and tired.

 

 

 

 

Leisure activity helps me feel rested.

 

 

 

 

Sports and games bring me more laughs than frowns because I play to have fun not necessarily to win.

 

 

 

 

I enjoy creative play—dancing, painting, party games, playing a musical instrument, etc.

 

 

 

 

I laugh at least once a day.

 

 

 

 

I take vacations without worrying about the job.

 

 

 

 

Multiply √ by the value given in each column

 

 

 

 

 

Add the total for each column to get the GRAND TOTAL = ________

Scoring

10-14 points = President of Eeyore International

15-24 points = Party pooper

25-34 points = Fun to be around

34-40 points = Life of the party

Thursday, July 31, 2008

FOOTBALL HELMET ON THE FUNNY FARM FIELD

“I notice you are wearing a football helmet on the mental health unit.”

“It keeps the voices out.”

“Wearing the football helmet keeps you from hearing the voices?”

 “If I don’t wear it, the voices get too loud.”

“Make certain you buckle that chin strap extra tight.”

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

The Fun Quiz

DO YOU KNOW HOW TO HAVE FUN?

 

LITTLE OF THE TIME

1-pt/each √

SOME OF THE TIME

2-pt/each √

A LOT OF THE TIME

3-pt/each √

MOST OF THE TIME

4-pt/each √

I enjoy hobbies without feeling guilty about not working.

 

 

 

 

I am optimistic and cheerful.

 

 

 

 

I surround my self with happy, positive, and fun-loving people.

 

 

 

 

I correct my mistakes and blunders, but don’t continue to worry about them

 

 

 

 

I take a long weekend away from work when I begin to feel burned out and tired.

 

 

 

 

Leisure activity helps me feel rested.

 

 

 

 

Sports and games bring me more laughs than frowns because I play to have fun not necessarily to win.

 

 

 

 

I enjoy creative play—dancing, painting, party games, playing a musical instrument, etc.

 

 

 

 

I laugh at least once a day.

 

 

 

 

I take vacations without worrying about the job.

 

 

 

 

Multiply √ by the value given in each column

 

 

 

 

 

Add the total for each column to get the GRAND TOTAL = ________

Scoring

10-14 points = President of Eeyore International

15-24 points = Party pooper

25-34 points = Fun to be around

34-40 points = Life of the party

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Learning Lessons

“You lost your arm when you were 17-years old?”

 “Yeh. I put it through the window and it cut an artery. Blood everywhere. Mama sure ‘nuff opened the door then.”

 “You were trying to get into the house?”

 “I got mad when I found out my cousin was a lesbian and mama locked me out.”

 “I heard she locked you out because you were smoking crack.”

 “That might have been part of it.”

 “Anyway you were smoking crack, got mad, put your arm through the window, severed your brachial artery, and they had to amputate?”

 “You got it mostly right only you left out the lesbian part.”

 “Let’s see you are 37-years old now and still smoking crack?” 

“I didn’t use none for over a year, but my roommate locked me out of the apartment and I started using again.” 

“Was your roommate a lesbian?”

 “No man. I learned that lesson.”

MOVING ADVANTAGES

The next morning he got up at 5:30 AM and was on the road to his daughter’s in Ft. Mill. South Carolina. From the parking lot of the Inn at Virginia Tech, it was 181 miles. Interstate all the way. No traffic. Made it in two hours and forty minutes. Took his daughter and two grandchildren to eat at Dunkin Donuts on the way to church where his son-in-law and assistant pastor was waiting. After church to lunch at Zapata’s for Mexican food. The bought some inexpensive American Girl Doll accessories (an oxymoron?) over the Internet. Played Wege or something like that. Borrowed shorts and T-shirt from his son-in-law. Bought some inexpensive on-sale tennis shoes. Used his daughter’s extra racket. Played a set of tennis after a long warm-up, and then drove back to Blacksburg arriving at 9:00 PM. To bed early. Needed to be sharp for an interview with the chairman tomorrow. Yes, it would be nice to be closer to the family. 

Monday, July 28, 2008

NEGOTIATIONS

What makes people change? When? Why now? What is a job worth? What's important? Met with the section chief at R. and then the Chairman. Two-hours of negotiation. Will make almost $$$ less than current job, but still in the top __ %at his new job. Took it. Thought of more important things---the advantages of being closer to the kids, a better climate, beautiful country, and a challenging new job. Will be working much harder, making less money, but will be energized by family and new challenges.