Tuesday, January 8, 2008

THE TRAGIC FAILURE TO CHANGE

          Some people have difficulty changing because they are caught in financial or geographical traps. Let us consider those people, however, who have every opportunity to change, but, nonetheless, continue to engage in self-defeating behavior despite ongoing negative consequences:

v    Smoking, obesity, and alcohol abuse can lead to chronic illnesses and premature death. Despite ominous health warnings that are more certain than storm alerts from the National Hurricane Center, surveys by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention show that very few people are willing to stop their self-destructive unhealthy habits.

o      20% of American adults smoke

o      More than 30% of Americans are overweight

o      15% of Americans are binge drinkers

v    People are often noncompliant to medical treatments

o      50-65% of Americans fail to follow their doctors’ treatment recommendations

o      10% of hospital admissions among older adults result from failure to follow doctors’ directions

o      Almost one-third of patients visiting a physician fail to get their prescriptions filled

o      A Case Western Reserve University survey showed that 54% of glaucoma patients failed to use their eye drops as directed even though these patients knew they would go blind unless they complied with their doctors’ instructions.

o      70% of patients receiving treatment at a community mental health center dropped out of treatment before the third visit.

v    Most serious attempts to maintain behavior change are unsuccessful. A University of Scranton study found that only 19% of those who had made a significant change in a problem behavior maintained the change when surveyed two years later.

FORCES THAT IMPEDE CHANGE

Psychological Forces

Thoughts and Habits that Limit Change

Pain versus Pleasure

The immediate pleasure of the habit (gambling) is more powerful than the delayed pain (financial ruin)

Fear of failure

People fear that if they fail in their efforts to change, they will feel even worse.

All or nothing thinking

I must lose 50 pounds; losing 10 pounds is unacceptable

Loss of free choice

Encouraging change threatens freedom & control.

Change is unpredictable

The discomfort of the status quo may be preferred over the anxiety produced by change.

An undesirable habit may provide unmet needs.

Drinking relieves stress. Physical abuse provides attention. Eating fills a psychological void.

Monday, January 7, 2008

What Makes Us Who We Are

We are what we are because of nature (in computer lingo, our hard drive) and nurture (our software). Our genetic inheritance interacts with environmental conditions to make us who we are.

            The human genome is analogous to a 46-volume encyclopedia. Each chromosome represents a volume; a gene on the chromosome represents a page. The interaction between chromosomes and genes is analogous to the interaction of freewill and determinism.   Our development has a sensitive dependence on initial conditions. The genes we inherit are important. How our genes interact with the environment is equally important.

Little Did He Know

Tiny differences in input can quickly become overwhelming disparities in output. A butterfly stirring the air in Scarsdale, New York can transform storm systems in London the next month. A man pushes the snooze button on his alarm clock. He leaves his house in the morning thirty seconds later than usual. A swerving truck misses his car by inches. Walking from the parking garage, a falling wrench at a construction site knocks him dead. Little did he know that thirty seconds was a half-a-minute too late. Just as there exist too many butterflies for the weatherman make an accurate forecast all the time, psychiatrists have a difficult time predicting how an individual will respond to the alarm clock. Thus, there is no definite psychiatric explanation for why some lead successful lives and others develop emotional problems.             

Who Can Predict Success?

I was reminded of the unpredictability of life on a recent outing with my granddaughter. Following a thunderous rain, my granddaughter, Lori, and I left the house to play. Strolling to a neighborhood creek, we put two matchbook boats side by side in the stream. We ran as quickly as we could to the footbridge crossing the creek and watched the progress of the two little boats. Although these boats were identical in size and structure, one boat quickly sailed under our footbridge, while the other boat bumped along slowly, was caught in a hydraulic force, and spit into an eddy where it stalled.

            “Pop, how come that boat kept going and the other one got stuck?” Lori asked.

            Wanting Lori to be the smartest kid in gym class, I said, “According to scientists studying chaos theory, it’s due to deterministic non-periodic flow.”

            “That’s what I thought,” replied Lori. “I think I’ll go ask Mimi.”

            I never discovered Mimi’s answer, but Lori’s dilemma presents some difficult questions: Why did one boat sail swiftly with the current, while the other boat floundered in shallow waters? In somber times, we sometimes ask a similar question about our lives. Does the outcome of our life depend on the currents of fate or the structure of our life or something else? Are our actions determined? Do we have free will to sail the streams of our choosing?

            Watch two bits of paper flowing side by side at the bottom of a waterfall. What can you guess about how close they were at the top? Nothing. Watch two people sitting side by side at church. What can you guess about the experiences they have had? Nothing.

            Why do matchbook boats sail erratically? Why are our lives so unpredictable? Why does the kid voted most likely to succeed spend his life under a park bench while the class clown wins the Noble Prize? 

Sunday, January 6, 2008

Worship that Pleases God

Worship that pleases God has five characteristics:
  1. Worship that comes from the heart.
  2. Worship that is filled with thoughtful, meditative awe, and respect for God.
  3. Worship that renews a dedication to serving God with our good works.
  4. Worship that is joyful and spirit filled.
  5. Worship that conveys thankfulness.

Humility--the Heart of Worship

The understanding that God loved us so much that he gave his son for us fills us with awe and engenders the desire to love God in return by serving him.
  • We love because he first loved us.
I John 4:19
  • God proves his love for us in that while we still were sinners Christ died for us.
Romans 5:8
  • My friends, because of God's great mercy to us I appeal to you: Offer yourselves as a living sacrifice to God, dedicated to his service and pleasing to him. This is the true worship that you should offer.
Romans 12:1

Worship

Worship of God has five parts:
  • Worship increases our awareness of the holiness of God
  • Worship renews our conviction to trust God
  • Worship stimulates reverential respect for the power of God
  • Worship opens the heart to the love of God
  • Worship renews our devotion to God

Saturday, January 5, 2008

A Prayer Method

A method for praying can use the ACTS acronym:
  • A = Adoration
Lord, you are the power, the glory, and the truth.
  • C = Confession
We confess our sins of selfishness.
  • T = Thanksgiving
Thank you for the grace of Jesus Christ that we might be saved through faith.
  • S = Supplication
Help us to work for your good pleasure. Help us to love one another.

Bookworm

Four levels of Meaning in Literature:
  • Narrative
  • Allegory
  • Moral
  • Mystical

Friday, January 4, 2008

ARE YOU ON THE BORDER OF SANITY?


MAKE CHECK MARK (√) IN APPROPRIATE COLUMN

LITTLE OF THE TIME

1-pt/each √

SOME OF THE TIME

2-pt/each √

A LOT OF THE TIME

3-pt/each √

MOST OF THE TIME

4-pt/each √

My life seems to be filled with chaos.

 

 

 

 

I am sensitive to rejection and rebuff.

 

 

 

 

I feel that people tend to abandon me.

 

 

 

 

When I meet certain people, I think they are terrific, but they turn out to be total jerks.

 

 

 

 

I feel empty inside.

 

 

 

 

I lose my temper quickly.

 

 

 

 

I get terribly depressed over things that seem insignificant to others.

 

 

 

 

I cut myself or burn myself to take away tension and stress.

 

 

 

 

When I get depressed or angry, I bounce back fast.

 

 

 

 

I hate people that threaten to leave me or abandon me.

 

 

 

 

Multiply √ by the value given in each column

 

 

 

 

 

Add the total for each column to get the GRAND TOTAL = ________

 

Scoring

10-14 points = Totally centered

15-24 points = Occasionally I get my feet wet in the Rio Grande.

25-34 points = Apply for dual citizenship.

34-40 points = What border?

 

ARE YOU WEIRD?

MAKE CHECK MARK (√) IN APPROPRIATE COLUMN

LITTLE OF THE TIME

1-pt/each √

SOME OF THE TIME

2-pt/each √

A LOT OF THE TIME

3-pt/each √

MOST OF THE TIME

4-pt/each √

I think people are talking about me

 

 

 

 

I have superstitious feelings that others consider odd

 

 

 

 

I have special powers that I have difficulty explaining to others

 

 

 

 

I can read the minds of other people

 

 

 

 

I can predict what is going to happen in the future

 

 

 

 

People consider me eccentric or odd

 

 

 

 

I get anxious around others because they are out to get me

 

 

 

 

I have a difficult time explaining myself to others

 

 

 

 

I can feel my body floating away from me

 

 

 

 

I feel that people can’t be trusted

 

 

 

 

Multiply √ by the value given in each column

 

 

 

 

 

Add the total for each column to get the GRAND TOTAL = ________

Scoring

10-14 points = You are normal—so why are you taking this test.

15-24 points = We all have a few oddities

25-34 points = Weird Al’s brother (For those under 30, this means you’re more than unusual

34-40 points = Let’s fit you for a straight jacket

ARE YOU A WALL FLOWER?

MAKE CHECK MARK (√) IN APPROPRIATE COLUMN

LITTLE OF THE TIME

1-pt/each √

SOME OF THE TIME

2-pt/each √

A LOT OF THE TIME

3-pt/each √

MOST OF THE TIME

4-pt/each √

I don’t enjoy being around people

 

 

 

 

I have no interest in sexual experiences

 

 

 

 

I can find nothing that gives me pleasure

 

 

 

 

I don’t have any friends

 

 

 

 

I choose activities that allows me to be alone

 

 

 

 

I don’t feel anything when people praise me

 

 

 

 

I don’t feel anything when people criticize me

 

 

 

 

I don’t feel detached from others

 

 

 

 

I don’t have any emotional feelings

 

 

 

 

Other people find me dull and uninteresting

 

 

 

 

Multiply √ by the value given in each column

 

 

 

 

 

Add the total for each column to get the GRAND TOTAL = ________

 

Scoring

10-14 points = Life of the party

15-24 points = You fit in with just about everybody

25-34 points = Go fishing (alone)

34-40 points = A paper hanger’s dream